Relocation Offers Lots of Opportunities An international move is a chance to see some of the best places to live abroad and deal with difficulties, challenges, as well as inspiring situations. Are you thinking about moving to another country? Look at Your Relocation as a Wonderful Vacation Regardless of whether your romance works out eventually, moving internationally means getting to know some of the best cities to live in Europe for example, as well as seeing and exploring unknown cultures.
Your partner shouldn't be the reason you moved, you are. Would Your Partner Relocate for You? The Financial Situation Is Important Talking about your financial plans as a couple should be mandatory.
A bad financial situation while living together could be cause for a breakup. Consider Your Feelings Relocating to a new environment for a significant other is a huge commitment. Get a Quote. Agree to be contacted via text Details. Recent posts. Realted posts. All Rights Reserved. Privacy Policy. Ok Privacy policy. I am very close with my family, so this experience has certainly had its challenges. But more than anything, I have grown as a person. I feel like I know myself better and am more sure of my resilience.
People always say I am brave for moving here, however in the begining I felt stupid, naive, and unsure. Now I see the bravery behind my decision, and though I have not figured everything out yet, I definitely do not regret moving to Belgium. I live in a city I love, I have some really good friends, and I have a wonderful job.
I am learning Dutch not easy and gradually finding my place here. I know I still have some ways to go before I feel really settled, but okay, I am leaps and bounds from where I began.
Always feels a better when you hear stories of people who took similiar changes and are the better for it. Hi Liz! Thanks so much for your sharing your experience. By the way, I have any idea for featuring you in an upcoming article.
What is your email address? I really want to be with my partner and not do long distance… but that would mean giving up a career in the UK. And congrats by the way on making the move! So I am really thankful at this time, reading your story.
Thank you so much in advance for your answer. Have a lovely day! Warm regards, Alexandra. Hi Alexandra! Thanks so much for your kind words.
I would love to meet; email me at gorgeousglobe gmail. I loved reading your article. I moved over just after finishing university and I had all these hopes for what my career could be but I found it hard to get a job not being able to speak dutch so off I went to classes to learn but found the language extremly hard to learn. On top of that not having a support system over here made my anxiety worse. Now I feel guilty for not working and being able to contribute financially.
What a great post! I am currently packing up my home and moving to Mexico to be with my boyfriend. Hopefully my journey will be eye opening and worth it. Thank you for your post. Thank you for sharing your story. I go through phases of excitement for new adventures and being proud of myself for being brave to doubting myself for moving so far away from my support system to outright fear and sadness.
Cheers, Francesca. I livedin 3 other countries and I am quite surprised that im experiencing culture shock here. It may not be the right mindset, yet? Are u currently in Zurich? Hi Tatiana! In my case i was dating a guy from USA , we were 4 years in long distance relationship , either he travelled to visit me or me to visit him. Therefore I told her and her family and friends to stay for me for six months, let me go to Canada and I would do whatever I can to make money and I would come back then we can have a ceremony and be with each other.
I was trying to have the relationship when I was in Canada in many ways like using WhatsApp calls or whatever I could but she was only rejecting me. I thought to myself she would do what I did for her waiting for six months , but I was totally wrong. I have found a job that I like, it is difficult but at least I like it.
Staying in Iran or leaving for Canada. It sounds to me that you know what you need to do. Ultimately, take care of yourself first because no one wants to be with someone who is unhappy. Best of luck! My partner and I have been together 2 years now, the entire time long distance.
Me in Singapore and him in Australia. We have known each other since school days, and are both from the UK. The agreed plan was to go home to the UK together, in the long run. Initially, I agreed to join him in Australia for a couple of years just mainly so that we could enjoy living together and for him to have bit more time to save, and maybe have a baby too..
The agreed plan which he said he was totally happy to do, was to go home to UK. Anyway…so of course, the next step was to instead go home UK earlier than planned as we both agreed we cannot do another year long-distance and I will have no Visa to work or live there.
The partner visa is an option, but its a 2 year process time potentially…leaving me just hanging around there for 2 years not legally allowed to work at all. We both desperately now want to start a family, buy a house etc.
He is now a citizen of Aus as he has been there 11 years in total. It was always my intention to go home and if I was not with him, I would already be home now. He has recently in last few days completely changed his mind entirely and has refused to come back to England like we have been planning for months and months now.
I had told my family, he had told his, and I was so excited. He is refusing. He now has given an ultiumatum — I either move there and we do the kids thing, or we separate. He says we can move back to UK in a few years, but I feel unsure I can believe him as he has been back and forth various times on this whole thing.
I love him very much and I do not want my life without him and have been thinking of our future family and getting excited everyday! I do not have any kind of working visa for Aus so if I went there, I would be fully dependant on him, have no one I know and be pregnant maybe.
Sounds a dodgy plan to me! Going home alone will make me sad and living so far from family with no guarantee he will move back like he is saying he will…is risky!
Ah — just came across your blog and I love it! And keeping your independence is SO important. Thanks for sharing! Me and my girlfriend are in a similar situation right now. We met in summer working together at a restaurant in my home state.
We quickly fell in love and started spending so much time and every day together. After summer ended, we took a huge trip all across america and even to Hawaii. After our trip, she flew back home to Poland and I stayed in America. I told her I would come to visit her for 3 months Since my job was seasonal and I only work in the summer and I went to Poland to meet her family and experience her culture.
I loved her family and her culture but I felt very bored when I was there since I was not working. I came back to America after my 3 months was up and began working at the same restaurant again. She got another visa and came to work with me but in order to do this she gave up her dream job in Poland. We just spent another whole summer together and just took another epic vacation this time to puerto rico but now we have to make some very serious decisions.
She just went back to Poland a few days ago and got her dream job back. I told my girfriend I would move to Poland for one year to see how things go but she says she doesnt want to move to america again because of the culture here and her job in Poland.
I mean thats what happens right? I cant picture my life with anybody else. I just dont know if this next year teaching English will be just prolonging the inevitable since both of us dont seem to want to leave our familys in the long term. Should I just try it and see? Am I just afraid of growing up? Whats wrong with me? Any advice helps!! I have this problem. After some time we met and I fell head over heels with him. I loved it there in that country.
They do not see it as a chance for better education and an adventure, all they see is my will to live with my boyfriend. I have always said that I would never do LDR but because he was so persuasive and because he said he would move to Australia I agreed. Last year in July my boyfriend moved to Australia to be with me and it has been the best year and I thought the whole two years LDR was worth it. He wants us to move to the UK together, that way we can both work there seeing as I can only speak English and he can also be closer to his family in Spain.
I feel so confused as to what to do. I guess I was hoping you or anyone could read it and share with me some of your experiences and maybe provide me with some clarification or perspective. No one can really tell you what you should do. It took that person to be willing to work on or change that part of themselves, and it was ultimately for the better. Does he understand that you will be as far away from your family as he is now? It seems to be that some time abroad would be an opportunity for you to become more emotionally resilient, to develop skills in making new friends, and so on.
If you decide to go, think of it less like a sacrifice, and more as an opportunity for growth. And remember that you can always go home again. Great reply Alyssa. I was wondering how you would reply to this and the reply was exactly what I was thinking.
Hope all is well, Alyssa and goes well for you Cindy. Hi Alyssa, Thanks for your post. We dated in our hometown, Toronto Canada for 3 years before he moved last summer to Thailand to live a raw food lifestyle. Before he left, he wanted me to move there with him and he still wants that. We have been managing a long distance relationship for nearly a year with video chat and emails, the odd card in the mail.
Recently there has been a feeling of sadness, confusion as he was having trouble renewing his visa and was wanting to not be alone going through all the hassle and loneliness by himself in Thailand. I told him he is just doing a lifestyle experiment which he is not even all that committed to, so it makes no sense for me to give up my family, friends, spiritual community, and job that I have worked mega mega hard to get and am just finally getting financially stable after 5 years of struggle.
He suggests that I got on-line jobs as a health consultant, as well as teaching English so that I can travel with him while he figures out where he wants to be.
He says it may take him years to figure it out! I am losing sleep over this now. And it also scares me that we would start our journey of living together while being in a foreign place, and that just feels stressful because who will I turn to when it gets too stressful? I have been completely supportive of his move to Thailand, with the idea that he would probably return back home after months of this experiment, but he seems to not be coming back any time soon. I just pray everything comes together, or that I get an answer about how to deal with this soon.
Thanks for listening:. That could change in the future, but how long are you willing to wait? Thank him for being honest about how long it will take to figure things out and get moving.
He already has the physical space to do the work — give him the mental and emotional space too. My suggestion? We visited each other like times a year, had fun and then communicated via social media.
I know him from my 5 months on Erasmus when I actually liked someone else I know it is getting even more complicated. I have to say that I had many issues that I was just not even trying to solve and this whole situation was making me anxious.
Still, I was not ready to let this possibility go. Thanks to the therapy, working on myself and opening up I was able to ask for the big talk. I can say that your article helped me to check with the reasons why would I be moving there. And the only reason why was the other person and I realized that it is not enough.
Sounds like you made the right decision for yourself and the relationship. All the best! I want to follow him. If not, then go!
Everyone should take the time to live abroad if they have the opportunity to. The only thing that gives me pause is that he was applying for jobs without telling you… or encouraging you to do the same. Thank you for sharing your story. I would like your advice or perhaps an opinion from a third person. I am used to living in big cities e. It was in city different than his but he travelled to me every weekend. I hated Germany — being from the Caribbean I found Germans extremely cold and the country too boring.
I would like to do a PhD perhaps in Germany… but I need the language. Ultimately he does not want to live in Germany, but he is a med student.. I was wondering if you have any suggestions for me? Hi Lyss, I definitely understand your predicament! That definitely counts for a lot. Ultimately, though, you have to decide if you want to be in Germany for the foreseeable future — and that means going out and doing things you enjoy I always joined dance classes!
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